As a Therapist I have worked with many people who lack confidence. It’s a very common reason that people seek my help. Sometimes people lack confidence in many or all aspects of their lives and others in just one, for example at work, socially, in relationships, public speaking and in certain situations. I have even worked with people who are highly confident in one area of their lives such as sport but experience low confidence in another area of their lives.
The word “confidence” comes from the Latin word “to trust”. To be self-confident is to trust in yourself, your abilities, qualities and judgement.
Self-confidence is a vital aspect in life. It determines how well you will develop yourself. When you are lacking confidence it is almost impossible to focus on building your life at the same time as worrying about what others think and say about you.
I want to reassure you that there are many things you can do about your lack of self-confidence.
Your self-confidence is just like a muscle, it can be grown and developed with the right training and attention. Just like a muscle, if you don’t use it, you lose it!
Signs and symptoms of low self confidence
Low confidence can cause detrimental effects not only in your life but also to your health. Here are some signs and symptoms of a person lacking in self-confidence.
- Too much concern about what other people think about you
- Low expectations in life about yourself
- Feelings you are inadequate
- Anxiety attacks
- Lack of trust in your own opinion
- Neglecting yourself and your appearance
- Eating disorders
- Treating other people well but not yourself
- Withdrawing from your social life
- Worrying about how you have treated others
- Inability to accept or handle compliments
- Difficulties in handling difficult situations or problems
- Difficulties in making decisions by yourself
5 Ways you can improve low self-confidence
- Be fair to yourself
Many people suffering from low self confidence do not have time for themselves but make time for others. As much as your peers, family, spouse, children, parents and your job need you, you shouldn’t always compromise your needs for them. Your needs and wants are equally important. This does not necessarily mean that you should be selfish but it is all about setting limits on what you can give or take. Do something for you, do something you love or are passionate about.
- Acknowledge your strengths and accomplishments
When you are lacking in confidence you often only notice your weaknesses and recall feedback or situations that seem to confirm your lack of confidence. Acknowledge that you DO have strengths and have experienced accomplishments, otherwise you wouldn’t be where you are today. Write them down and read them regularly. Add to them. A reminder of your strengths and accomplishments will help you to chip away at your self-doubt.
- Be your own best friend
Need to start feeling more confident? Start by being your own friend. Start treating yourself the same way you’d treat a good friend. Start talking to yourself the same way that you’d talk to a good friend. Yes, it’s important to have friends around you who can help to increase your confidence but enjoy your own company once in a while. Take yourself out, have a You evening in doing whatever you enjoy doing. Have a date set out just for you!
- Address your self-doubt
If self-doubt starts creeping in don’t ignore it – address it! When you allow self-doubt to start creeping in not only does it make you feel doubt in yourself or in your decision but it also continues creating the negative perception about yourself in your mind and feeds your core belief about yourself. Talk to yourself like a trusted friend would. Replace negative and unhelpful thoughts with more constructive and positive ones.
- Start accepting compliments gracefully
Many people with low-confidence find it difficult to accept a compliment or any recognition, shrugging ot off as if they aren’t worthy of it tamiflu dosage for adults. Accepting a compliment, recognition or praise with a simple “thank you” can go a long way in boosting your confidence.
When to seek professional help
Low self confidence can greatly affect your life and if left unaddressed it can lead to anxiety and depression. The good news is that your confidence CAN be improved.
If despite your best intentions and efforts you continue to lack self-confidence, then I suggest you seek help from a professional like myself. A professional therapist can work with you to identify the root cause of your lack of confidence and apply techniques to increase your self-confidence with you.
Contact me now for a FREE Initial Consultation to see how it is that I can help you to improve your self-confidence and banish any self-doubt.